Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Something that's ours

Our day has gotten off to a rocky start.

Fynn went to bed late, up early, meltdowns right and left before 7:30.

The train tracks have already been put away... they need a break. They don't work well when they get torn apart and thrown. And they get upset when they see a big brother head butt a little sister because she's standing too close.

TV privileges have been revoked.

... and then reinstated when mommy just needs ONE MINUTE to put together a grocery list...

This mommy thing is hard.

No matter your personal hangups, mothering in itself is a difficult, lovely, mysterious, and painful job.

So the computer gets turned on to find a few recipes, and here I am.

The pull of this is something I've struggled with recently. The computer is my escape, my life line at times. But I know it takes me away from them.

Which is ok. They need time to play without me. I need time to spout some words someplace {and God forbid I pull out an actual pen and paper the kids think it's time for THEM to create something... which is beautiful and wonderful but I want to scream IT'S MINE!!!}

Maybe that's it. This place is MINE. Fynn's train tracks are HIS and Paige... well Paige thinks everything under this roof is HERS.

I think we need a break from mine and his and hers and make some ours.


July 8, 2010 030

Posted by Corinne at 8:59 AM
Labels: , , ,

30 comments:

  1. I hope your day gets better! It's the worst when mornings start off in a negative way -- it's so hard to get your footing so there CAN be some 'ours'.

    But keep searching. It'll be good when you find it :)
    ReplyDelete
  2. Tough morning. I hope it gets better for you. And I for one am glad you have this space that is yours, because it's a beautiful place. :)
    ReplyDelete
  3. you hit it right on the head..."No matter your personal hangups, mothering in itself is a difficult, lovely, mysterious, and painful job."

    i hope sunshine finds you today, and warms all the ick right out of the day. and even though this place takes you away from them for a bit, it is better to spout off here than to them. at least until you have tiome to regroup :) love you!
    ReplyDelete
  4. argh! I hate those mornings. I also use this as a way to escape sometimes. it's needed to keep us sane. hope your day gets better
    ReplyDelete
  5. I find myself drawn to the computer too. Grown-ups live in here, and when there are no grown-ups in my house, I feel the need to connect with them via the internet.

    Finding something that is "ours" is difficult. We usually find it in a project that everyone is helping with or a special routine. Sunday mornings are "ours". Evan makes pancakes and I make eggs while the girls run under our legs and supervise the process. Elisabeth usually won't sleep over at a friend's house on Saturday nights because she hates missing Sunday mornings.
    ReplyDelete
  6. Im having that kinda day too!!! And we are supposed to meet up with friends at a Splash Park :/ Im nervous to see how this turns out!
    Question: Is your son usually aggressive like that? Because mine is! And I was wondering what you do when he acts like that? Nothing we've tried has worked so far... sometimes it makes it worse! If you have any tips or advice I would love it!
    ReplyDelete
  7. This mothering thing IS hard. I suggest a nice cup of tea and a cookie. xo
    ReplyDelete
  8. Yep, nothing like the computer to get a break from the chaos. BTW, when my eldest was 2 and we got the trainset, we glued down the tracks. It kept him from being so frustrated when the tracks came apart and he could just play with the trains. He eventually ripped them all up, but there was a time where there were no tears!
    ReplyDelete
  9. My morning with Miss M today sounds exactly like yours... Only I get to throw her in the car, exhale and kiss her goodbye before heading off to work! ;-) She is five, going on fifteen I tell ya! It's scary.

    Yes, a little bit of "ours" is nice, but we ALL need a little "me" time, too! Take time out for you (even if it is just a few extra minutes here in this space). Relax, regroup and maybe you'll be up for a little "our" time after that. HUGS!
    ReplyDelete
  10. Yup, in order to enjoy the OURS, you need to have some MINE.
    ReplyDelete
  11. meltdowns right and left before 7:30? I think I'd go back to bed. :)
    ReplyDelete
  12. oh that kind of day huh!I hope that things get better... A bit of "OURS" will sure be some good.... all the best for tat
    ReplyDelete
  13. Hayden was extremely whiny and cranky this morning (and rude). Not cool. He is doing a little better now.

    Very cute picture by the way.
    ReplyDelete
  14. Yep, I'm feeling the need to escape too, kids climbing on me, no hubby around this week, cold out so no where to go. And my 2 year old is sitting in my lap saying "no more 'peter (computer) mom". Been up since 5:30, and I just had to get my "me" moment.
    ReplyDelete
  15. Make some ours. I like that. Balance. Or something!
    ReplyDelete
  16. balance is tough, but i find the most beautiful facets of life are in the grey. hope things calmed down a bit, by the way i love that picture of your babies, too cute!!
    ReplyDelete
  17. So true- and that photo, priceless.

    Steph
    ReplyDelete
  18. I totally get this. This is definitely my escape too, but I always have to figure out if I am escaping too much. Balance is hard.
    ReplyDelete
  19. A rough morning really does snowball into a suck-ass day. I hope you made some wonderful OURS to turn things around.

    (And *this* is my escape, too. I understand perfectly.)
    ReplyDelete
  20. amen! i hope you hot a little bit of time to yourself today.
    ReplyDelete
  21. I totally get that: the computer being your escape but it takes you away from them. I struggle with that all the time! Some days are like this...tomorrow will be better! {ps...I will email you tomorrow AM}
    ReplyDelete
  22. I hope things got better!

    My daily challenges are different - co-workers not children causing the stress. But like you I find relief at the end of the day when I can log on and check in with the amazing and supportive women out here in blogland.
    ReplyDelete
  23. Yes. We've been working on the mine/ours since Owen was born (yes, even when he had only one).

    And you're right about needing something, somewhere, that is just for *you*.

    xo
    ReplyDelete
  24. Hope your day got better. I know exactly what you mean about blogging. Since our vacation and my blogging vacation I've realized I need to make sure I maintain a good balance but as you so rightly say, the only thing in my life right now that is all mine is my blog, so it has a place and having it is making me a better person and mother I truly believe. It's all about balance, that ever tricky topic :-)
    ReplyDelete
  25. My friend, I so feel the same way about my computer. It's my escape, my lifeline, my outlet but it takes me away from them ... and things in moderation, right?
    We've been having relatively calm, easy days, but I know that one night of foul sleep for G or me is all it takes for meltdown after meltdown to ensue before 7:30 a.m.
    Wish I could give you a squeeze.
    ReplyDelete
  26. I like that you claim your "you time" and don't apologize for it.
    ReplyDelete
  27. Yes! That's exactly why I blog! A space that truly is my own where I can talk about (almost) anything! Free from kids' markers! (Yes! The exclamation points are needed!)

    But when I really focus on what's ours, that's when the real magic happens.
    ReplyDelete
  28. I struggle with the same thing, but you know what, we're women too, not just moms, so yes, we need something that is just for us. As long as there is plenty of things that are ours too.
    ReplyDelete
  29. oh! This is SO very beautiful!! I LOVE that last line - "I think we need a break from mine and his and hers and make some ours." OURS that is what makes a family. Thank you for the reminder.
    ReplyDelete
  30. "Mothering in itself is a difficult, lovely, mysterious, and painful job." That's so incredibly true, Corrine.

    We all have these days, these moments, and sometimes just sharing them helps. I love the idea to focus on what's ours, too. Great post.
    ReplyDelete

Subscribe to: Post Comments (Atom)

ShareThis